“Eating is not merely a material pleasure. Eating well gives a spectacular joy to life and contributes immensely to goodwill and happy companionship. It is of great importance to the morale.” – Elsa Schiaparelli
I do believe a relationship with food exists within every person. But that’s not what I want to discuss. What I want to discuss is how food impacts a relationship between two different people. Your relationship with food, plus another person, plus their food. Things can get complicated.
Has someone ever told you what to eat (other than when you were an infant) or made a comment about your poor/excellent food choices? Alright, let’s be honest here, has someone ever judged you and your food? Likely, yes. Was this person close to you? Likely, yes.
That’s the worst.
Time for a tough conversation. A little something called “eating assertion.” You are free to eat, regardless of your height, weight, gender, etc. Make them aware of this. Then, state exactly what is frustrating you and why that is. Here’s the kicker though, you have to take it a step further. State exactly how you would like them to better communicate with you. For example, “I would rather you tell me…” When do you feel the most support? Tell that person! Then, in a week when they forget, go ahead and tell them again :)
Get specific to see results.
Then, love your food, love the person, and they can love their food and you too!